When I was a Social Welfare Worker in Child Protection you would be surprised how many parents , abusive that they were actually loved their child. It seems to me that we have a gift from God to love our children. Even abusive parents are usually victims of poor role modelling they had as a child. Or victims of abuse themselves . It is their learned behaviour. It does not necessary mean they do not love their children. Therefor my suggestion is that we work to make our world worthy for our Children. One with values of protection & unconditional love . Your child bonded to you, or their main primary care giver in the first 5 years of their lives. You are their most important people on earth. They will live their lives according to how you role modelled, and taught them in particular in the 0 to 5 years old. But a window of opportunity also comes along during adolescent .